Comments for The Stream http://thestream.org Helping redefine what it means to be human Mon, 01 Aug 2011 15:33:33 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2 Comment on Fantasy: The Cost of Taking a Vacation From Consciousness & What We Can Do About It by Christine http://thestream.org/2011/07/fantasy-cost-vacation-consciousness-2/comment-page-1/#comment-8064 Christine Mon, 01 Aug 2011 15:33:33 +0000 http://thestream.org/?p=2711#comment-8064 Hi Mary, Thank you for this reminder to stay in reality and not try to escape into fantasy. Our family will be taking a family vacation at the end of the month, and this is a helpful reminder to stay within our budget and to keep checking in on what is for the highest good of all throughout the trip. We can apply that to where to go on vacation and to what to do and eat when we're there. I also think it's a good reminder in our day to day lives to stay in reality and to keep checking in on how to use the energy and resources that we have. I have a half-day off today, and typically I'll want to do so much with that time, but I need to be realistic and by checking in I know I'll be more relaxed. Hi Mary,

Thank you for this reminder to stay in reality and not try to escape into fantasy. Our family will be taking a family vacation at the end of the month, and this is a helpful reminder to stay within our budget and to keep checking in on what is for the highest good of all throughout the trip. We can apply that to where to go on vacation and to what to do and eat when we’re there.

I also think it’s a good reminder in our day to day lives to stay in reality and to keep checking in on how to use the energy and resources that we have. I have a half-day off today, and typically I’ll want to do so much with that time, but I need to be realistic and by checking in I know I’ll be more relaxed.

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]]> Comment on Flipping the Switch on the Immature Ego by Todd Benton http://thestream.org/2011/01/flipping-the-switch-on-the-immature-ego/comment-page-1/#comment-3690 Todd Benton Thu, 17 Feb 2011 05:58:24 +0000 http://thestream.org/?p=2407#comment-3690 Mary, I love reading your blogs. You are an amazing writer and capture the essence of what I am going through in the fight to find oneness, especially where it is most challenging and where I am most reactive -- with my children and my wife. But, what I have seen, slowly but surely, is that I am doing it in my family. And it is working. And, that then gives me the confidence to do it everywhere else. Similar to what Frank Sinatra said in "New York, New York" - if I can make it there, I can make it anywhere. Keep up the great work! Mary, I love reading your blogs. You are an amazing writer and capture the essence of what I am going through in the fight to find oneness, especially where it is most challenging and where I am most reactive — with my children and my wife. But, what I have seen, slowly but surely, is that I am doing it in my family. And it is working. And, that then gives me the confidence to do it everywhere else. Similar to what Frank Sinatra said in “New York, New York” – if I can make it there, I can make it anywhere.

Keep up the great work!

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]]> Comment on The Three-Year-Old Ego Still Has a Hold on Me By Mary Stine by Todd Benton http://thestream.org/2010/12/the-three-year-old-ego-still-has-a-hold-on-me-by-mary-stine/comment-page-1/#comment-1895 Todd Benton Thu, 09 Dec 2010 00:11:03 +0000 http://thestream.org/?p=2289#comment-1895 Mary, My version of this is the repeated instance of feeling stupid (isn't that one of the ego's greatest ways of keeping me separate from others). I don't know exactly when it started but I developed a coping mechanism: proving that "I know." Whenever I feel weak, and therefore stupid, the "Mr. Know it All" kicks into gear, attempting to prove that I am not stupid. What a trap! This year, through the support of the Living with Reality book and the Stream community, I have been dismantling this mechanism by first admitting to myself and others that I am stupid, not about everything, of course, but about a LOT of things. I mean, aren't we all stupid and ridiculous more often that we would care to admit? For example, how about when I misplace something and then blame everyone in my house (my wife and children) and curse at them under my breath and then find the item about 15 minutes later right where I had put it? Oops! This has been so liberating for me that I don't have to hide behind the know it all anymore. Who wants to hang out with a know it all anyway? Not me! I look forward to your next installment. Love, Todd Mary,

My version of this is the repeated instance of feeling stupid (isn’t that one of the ego’s greatest ways of keeping me separate from others). I don’t know exactly when it started but I developed a coping mechanism: proving that “I know.” Whenever I feel weak, and therefore stupid, the “Mr. Know it All” kicks into gear, attempting to prove that I am not stupid. What a trap!

This year, through the support of the Living with Reality book and the Stream community, I have been dismantling this mechanism by first admitting to myself and others that I am stupid, not about everything, of course, but about a LOT of things. I mean, aren’t we all stupid and ridiculous more often that we would care to admit? For example, how about when I misplace something and then blame everyone in my house (my wife and children) and curse at them under my breath and then find the item about 15 minutes later right where I had put it? Oops!

This has been so liberating for me that I don’t have to hide behind the know it all anymore. Who wants to hang out with a know it all anyway? Not me!

I look forward to your next installment.

Love, Todd

]]> Comment on 23 Signs I’m in My Ego by kb http://thestream.org/2009/10/23-signs-im-in-my-ego/comment-page-1/#comment-1516 kb Thu, 18 Nov 2010 07:06:02 +0000 http://livingwithreality.com/?p=1021#comment-1516 Sometimes if i want to know if i'm in a state of ego and i want to get my head on straight i just take 2 minutes to calm my mind and breath naturally and just be at peace for 2 minutes. I let all the feelings thoughts and emotions go and embrace stillness and peace. Thank you for this website! Sometimes if i want to know if i’m in a state of ego and i want to get my head on straight i just take 2 minutes to calm my mind and breath naturally and just be at peace for 2 minutes. I let all the feelings thoughts and emotions go and embrace stillness and peace. Thank you for this website!

]]> Comment on Facing Reality is a Great Relief by Mary Stine http://thestream.org/2010/09/facing-reality-is-a-great-relief/comment-page-1/#comment-815 Mary Stine Sun, 03 Oct 2010 04:21:44 +0000 http://thestream.org/?p=2097#comment-815 Todd--Thanks for coming along...and for your honesty. It is a wonderful goal--to become more of a blessing to ourselves and others. I am more of a visual person than a writer, so my vision of this is to become sort of a living teahouse...a serene, loving presence where all, including myself, can feel peaceful and cherished. Mry Todd–Thanks for coming along…and for your honesty.
It is a wonderful goal–to become more of a blessing to ourselves and others.
I am more of a visual person than a writer, so my vision of this is to become sort of a living teahouse…a serene, loving presence where all, including myself, can feel peaceful and cherished.
Mry

]]> Comment on Facing Reality is a Great Relief by Todd Benton http://thestream.org/2010/09/facing-reality-is-a-great-relief/comment-page-1/#comment-803 Todd Benton Sat, 02 Oct 2010 13:24:57 +0000 http://thestream.org/?p=2097#comment-803 Mary, yes I am up for the journey with you! I, too, have been touched by the honesty of Living with Reality. I lived so much of my life espousing the platitudes of the self-help and new age movements. They just made matters worse by making me feel like a fraud, and pushing me even further away from being real. In reading and practicing the Living with Reality principles, I have come to have self-compassion for my weaknesses, and in being willing to face them honestly, I have become more of a blessing to myself and everyone else. Mary, yes I am up for the journey with you! I, too, have been touched by the honesty of Living with Reality. I lived so much of my life espousing the platitudes of the self-help and new age movements. They just made matters worse by making me feel like a fraud, and pushing me even further away from being real. In reading and practicing the Living with Reality principles, I have come to have self-compassion for my weaknesses, and in being willing to face them honestly, I have become more of a blessing to myself and everyone else.

]]> Comment on Thanks, Son, I Welcome Correction by Richard Hillix-Di Santo http://thestream.org/2010/05/thanks-son-i-welcome-correction/comment-page-1/#comment-230 Richard Hillix-Di Santo Wed, 02 Jun 2010 03:30:57 +0000 http://livingwithreality.com/?p=1814#comment-230 You're a wonderful teacher, Todd. And an inspiration to all parents. Quoting Ghandi about 'being the change we hope to see in the world' affirms the wonderful potential in us all. The experience with your sons that you related serve as a beautiful reminder that as long as 'we are open/receptive' who can predict who will be our teachers. :) You’re a wonderful teacher, Todd. And an inspiration to all parents.
Quoting Ghandi about ‘being the change we hope to see in the world’ affirms the wonderful potential in us all. The experience with your sons that you related serve as a beautiful reminder that as long as ‘we are open/receptive’ who can predict who will be our teachers. :)

]]> Comment on Rosie and the Oneness by Richard Hillix-Di Santo http://thestream.org/2010/05/rosie-and-the-oneness/comment-page-1/#comment-229 Richard Hillix-Di Santo Wed, 02 Jun 2010 03:21:56 +0000 http://livingwithreality.com/?p=1827#comment-229 I could truly feel how sweet your experience with Rosie was the other night. What a lovely experience to share; thank you so much. And isn't being in that place of love and connection in the Universe, what we all seek? I could truly feel how sweet your experience with Rosie was the other night. What a lovely experience to share; thank you so much. And isn’t being in that place of love and connection in the Universe, what we all seek?

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